Where do you go from here? A Viewpoint on Why Black Women Give up on Black Men
In this day and time it appears that some Black Women are giving up marriages and fending for themselves and their children. In one case you have some Black women who would rather date White Men than Black Men , In another Case you have Black Men who refuse to date Black Women. Who is right and who is wrong? The statistics state that there are more Black Men Incarcerated than White Men which is true, but does that mean the Black woman should go out and date another race. The issue is not race although I mentioned White/Black relationships. The truth is it can be any type of interracial relationship. I’m not saying the an interracial relationship is wrong, I just wanted to point out some things in regards to Black women and relationships. In regards to Black Men a article was posted about the ongoing problems between Black Men and Black Women here is the article
“TOP nine Reasons Why It’s Hard To Date A Black Woman.” By Matthew Lynch
1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex. Black women’s tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man’s struggle in white America.
9. Black women do not cater to their men.
My response to the statements
1. In general I think the Black Woman hates the Black Man because he gets them pregnant and runs off. When they do have a “good man” they run him off and always say that he is irresponsible or that he can’t handle her. Black Women love to down talk the Black Men and point out all the things that he is not doing but never praising him for the good things that the is doing. Black Women love to say that they wish they were with someone else. Black Women want to stay home and become Lazy while the Black Man goes out to work. When he comes home he has to give her all the money so she can go shopping, and they wonder why Black men don’t come home at night.
2. Black women are aggressive because they feel they have to be They feel like since they are alone and the Black Man won’t help them, that having a bad attitude will take them farther in life. They do not want to be courted or taken on dates or romance. All they want is money and if you are cute, maybe sex.
3. Black women are strong headed because for years they have been the head of the house because of the absence of the Black Man. So when a man does show up he can’t be a Man because the Black Woman mows the lawn, takes out the trash, and cooks.
4. Black women are masculine because they feel that being feminine didn’t get them anywhere in the first place. They feel that if they act like a man maybe they will get treated better in the relationship. This is why you see a lot of domestic violence in Black Woman/Black Man relationships. The Black woman believes that she can say or do anything and the Black Man can do nothing about it. If he does do anything he knows that she will pick up a brick like Juanita Bynum or call the police on him.
5. Black women are still hoping for prince charming to show up on a White Horse and gallop them and their four kids off into the sunset. Black women do not respect a hard working Man white or Black. They would rather be in a relationship with someone who is doing illegal activity such as drugs where there is a lot of money involved. Black Women expect the Black Man to go to work all day long, bring home a check, clean up the house, cook and clean. If the Black Man doesn’t do all those things, then the Black woman withholds sex from him as a form of checkmate. The Black woman expects a lot but she is not willing to do anything on her part to equal out the relationship. We are not even going to bring up the fact that Black Women on average has at least two kids when they enter a relationship. And guess what, The man has to take care of them to.
6. Black Women are hot headed because they are embarrassed that the children that came from their womb grew up into bad boy that grew up to be bad men. They want their sons and daughters to be great in life. But because they are not training their children, they are upset because remember the Black Man has do everything because they are lazy. So anything that happens to the children is the Black Man’s fault. It doesn’t matter if he was in the child’s life or not. The have bad attitudes because they cant get what they want. Respect earns Respect. Black women want to take but they don’t want to give.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance as soon as you are trapped. Trapped meaning, pregnancy, marriage, Child support. They feel like once you are trapped they can talk to you any kind of way and look any kind of way. They refuse to go out in public with you, and they are always tired. Which leads to laziness.
8. Black Women are not sexually open as other races because some of the have been molested and raped at younger ages so they hate sex and men anyway. The Black woman always says “you better not cheat on me” but they are not willing to do what it takes to please The Black Man. Then they will go to another race and do whatever it takes to keep the next race happy. They are not empathetic to the Black Struggle in America because they feel like the “White Man” has all of the money anyway so I’ ll just leave the Black man and get with the White Man. They feel like since they won’t work and the Black man won’t work, everybody will just sit at home everyday and look at each other.
9. Black Women do not Cater To Black Men because they feel that the Black Man is not worthy of being catered too. Black women feel like the Black man should only cater to them, Balance means nothing to Black women, Ive been in relationships where it has been 100/0. I contribute 100% the Black Woman Contributes 0.
Final thoughts: If the Black Woman is so strong and they don’t need the Black Man then why are the children that are being produced turning out to be criminals instead of law abiding citizens. It is all about support, Everyone has someone in their family that doesn’t have their act together. But the family doesn’t leave the person out in the cold , they try their best to help out. In my observation The Black Woman has abandoned the Black Man and she is trying to blame it the Black Man. She is not interested in helping cultivate the relationship. She doesn’t want to be like her mother who may have been married for sixty years. The very thought of marriage is sickening to some Black Women. I wonder if that is one of the reasons lesbianism is becoming a hotter trend in the Black community. I wonder if the Black Woman knows that some of the boys out in the streets are killing and robbing innocent people are products that came from their womb. How can you get mad because your child goes to jail and you didn’t teach him morals. Everybody knows what’s right and wrong. The Question is why is it right? Why is it wrong? There have been recent reports that state Black women are considering dating outside their race. I guess that’s cool but you are starting a War from within. It’s one thing to say I found the right guy and he happens to be White. But It’s another thing to say Im looking for anyone other than a Black Man because they won’t work. When the truth is there are more women staying home not working than Men
